Saturday, February 12, 2011

Drama Magnet

Have you ever met someone who always seems to have something bad going on in their life? They may not necessarily always be in crisis-mode, but they are always seconds away from a complete melt-down.

In my early 20's, I knew a lot of people like this. They would always tell me that they didn't know why the world was always crumbling around their ears, that people who cause trouble or create drama are just drawn to them like magnets. I always thought to myself that it must be something that person, the drama-magnet, was doing, some way they were acting, some choice they were making that brought all this trouble into their lives. After all, they were in fact the constant in the equation, and each individual crisis the variable. Their situation, despite different players, was always the same dramatic mess.

Over the past few years, especially since my introduction to social media (Hello, Facebook!), I have found myself in a similar state of disarray. I find myself constantly saying, "I am not a dramatic person, but you'd never be able to tell with all the chaos around me!"

I can't help but wonder if this extended access to larger groups of people isn't partially behind the high school-esque fights and situations I've found myself in recently. Opening myself up on a public forum to 500 people, only half of whom I am actually personally acquainted, probably has some to do with it. With a group so large, not everyone is going  to agree with me or with each other when posting on my page. Especially when you take into consideration some of the topics I post about (breastfeeding, to name a popular fighting topic from my Facebook wall).

But surely Facebook isn't the entire root of my drama. Some of my most recent problems, while the arguments and communications have taken place on Facebook, have not been the result of anything posted on Facebook. I've had some very big personal issues to deal with recently, all of which have taken me to DEFCON 1, full on crisis-mode.

I've decided to take some time to reflect inward and try to find the source of all of these problems. It seems that I can't go a week or two without something blowing up in my face, and there has to be a reason for that. I don't want to be that girl that constantly has drama and blames it only on the magnetic effect she has on people. (I guess.) Pointing fingers and blaming everyone else when all of these problems are revolving around me is not going to solve anything and until I find the root of these problems, I fear that they will continue to escalate.

So tell me, have you ever found yourself the at ground-zero of drama central? Were you able to dig yourself out of the rubble, or are you still trying to find your way through the dust?