Sunday, July 31, 2011

Dividing Attention

I don't know about you, but having two kids has been kind of tough on me as a parent. Before Kairi, my youngest, was born, I spent a lot of time with Gracie. We did everything together. We had movie nights where we'd just lay in bed all night watching movies, dance party nights, we did makeovers, all kinds of stuff. I used to take all kinds of pictures of Gracie and basically just showered tons of attention on her.

Since Kairi has been born, I've had to divide my attention, and since Kairi is younger and significantly less independent, she gets the majority of my attention. Most of the pictures I take now are of Kairi, as I'm constantly having to follow her around and make sure she's not getting into stuff, and Gracie is usually off doing her own thing.

Every now and again though, I try to make some time to spend specifically with Gracie. I want her to still feel important. She's been great about not being too jealous of her sister, but she still deserves just as much of my time.

I got some really good shots of Gracie a few nights ago at my sister-in-law's house. I miss taking as many pictures of Gracie as I used to, so it's nice to get some cool, candid shots of her from time to time.

So, friends with multiple kids, what do you do to make sure you've got some one on one time with each child? Do you give them extra attention while one is taking a nap, or split up time between the other parent? Any other suggestions?






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This right here is why I don't want to have more than one child.. I'm so worried that my daughter will not get all my attention and feel left out.. or jealous.. and ugh.. that made me cry because you are the first one to admit that it is hard.. Most I say something about my insecurity too are like.. No.. its normal.. I don't feel bad.. and blah blah.. I hope you can find that balance.

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Maybe do weekly dates with your daughter!! Just you guys!!
I have 2 daughters too. 4 yo and 2yo. I spend the most amount of time with the older when other one is napping in the middle of the day. We also have activities that center around each. While older is in school, me and little one have music class once a week. While I'm with both, older one has a dance class and we watch.
My husband takes the older one out on a date every once in awhile and me and little one have a night to ourselves.

It's hard juggling but it's better than being an only child, in my opinion :)

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