Saturday, September 5, 2009

Casting Stones

I don't know what's going on with me lately. Either people have just been really weird online lately or I've become extremely judgmental pretty much overnight. This is kind of bothering me and I'd like your opinions on it, if you don't mind!

Here are my examples:

1st - Some random guy from California that I don't know and don't share any mutual friends with tried to add me on MySpace yesterday. This happens from time to time and I suppose I should change my picture to one with my kids in it so people will quit sending me "Hey sexy, wanna be *friends*??" requests. Anyway, I checked his profile out and immediately was put off. His profile pic is not one but two mug shots of himself. His status message said "Fresh out." The only comment that wasn't from an application (The "I'm sending you a drink" application) was from a guy with a blunt hanging out of his mouth and smoke rolling into his nose.

My thoughts on this are as follows: Most of you don't know this and I don't like to talk about it much, but I got into a HUGE amount of trouble right before I had Gracie. I didn't go to prison but I could have. Instead I got slapped on the wrist and promised that if I got in trouble again it would be VERY bad. I take that warning and second chance extremely seriously. I don't spend time with people who are proud of being in trouble or getting in trouble. Some of my friends have been in trouble but are also reformed. I've worked very hard to be where I want to be today and I've burned a lot of bridges getting here. It's unfortunate but my family is more important to me. The point is that as I don't spend time with that type of person IRL there is NO FREAKING WAY I'm gonna associate myself with one online. I know he has no way of knowing that. But my question is this - do people REALLY find that kind of thing attractive?
(That turned out longer than expected. I'll try to keep the others shorter.)

2nd - As I was checking my MySpace last night (with Gracie sitting on my lap) I noticed a friend posted new pictures of herself. I always check pictures, whether I comment or not. So I'm going through and then all of a sudden there are these huge pictures of her in her underwear laying on a bed glaring at my from my computer screen. Do people really have no discretion for what they post online? I mean, I could see possibly taking that sort of picture and sending it in an email or saving it on your computer or whatever PRIVATE use you wanted for it, but posting it in a public forum like MySpace just isn't appropriate. Some of the pictures I posted of Kairi when she was a newborn got reported and removed from MySpace - so if I can't have pictures of my NEWBORN FREAKING CHILD why should she be able to have pictures of herself like that?! Look, I'm no prude, but I just don't think that is an appropriate place for that sort of thing. Try adultfriendfinder.com (heads up - don't go there. It's a porn buddy site.)

3rd - An old friend of mine and I recently reconnected on FB. She chats with me from time to time. She just started chatting with me a minute ago and her first sentence was about how she just got her laptop fixed and she wants to go look at porn but her mom is standing right behind her so she's stuck chatting with me instead. ...Thanks? Like I said before, I'm no prude. But I don't want to hear about how you're really horny right now but stuck talking to me because you can't look at porn since your mom is standing behind you. It just makes me uncomfortable.

You know, I talk about that kind of stuff all the time, but typically to people I know just a little bit better, or at least I wait until it's a little less weird. "I'm horny but I have to talk to you instead of *relieving myself*" just doesn't seem like a great thing to tell someone.

Okay. So, I guess the last one is really the only one I'm particularly worried about sounding too judgmental in - but what do you guys think? How would you react to these situations?